Monday, April 2, 2012
The Big Questions in Life
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Safe Christianity
We live in an era of safe Christianity. It’s a sanitary, hands-off, from-a-distance kind of lifestyle onto which we’ve pasted the name of Christ. We won’t consider dangerous or self-sacrificial situations for the cause of Christ. Any person who might be dirty or have a bad past is not worthy of our time — we only peer at them through our holier-than-thou fence and possibly cast some spare change in their direction. But if we’re living this way and calling ourselves Christians, we’re committing some serious false advertising — because Christ’s life on this earth could not be characterized by the words “safe” or “sanitary.” His life was radical, dangerous and anti-cultural. I wonder — if we truly realized that we are called to imitate him and that kind of lifestyle — if we would still claim to follow him.
This whole topic has been pounding in my head since an experience I had with a homeless man a few weeks back. My internship boss sent me out on a story about a local restaurant closing, so I drove into downtown Springfield to find the restaurant and see what the closing sign on the door said. When I was there, a homeless man approached me and asked me if I was the one buying this building because he was looking for work. I told him why I was there and he asked if I could spare any change for some food. I gave him what little money I had on me — nine cents — and asked if I could pray for him. Then he and I started talking about his life.
His name is Glenn and he has been homeless for four years. He has a bum leg that he can’t afford to get fixed and must use a crutch. He sweeps the Marathon gas station parking lot for a little money in the mornings. Sometimes, gangs of teenagers beat him up for fun. He’s on the waiting list at a shelter, but until then he sleeps in an alley. He attends a church but no one talks to him or looks at him. And the last time he ate was two days ago.
My heart broke for this man. I immediately thought of Matthew 25 where Christ said that when his followers fed and clothed the needy, they were feeding and clothing him. I looked at Glenn, and I did not see a smelly, scary homeless man; I saw a man made in the image of God who was starving. And I couldn’t leave him that way.
So I asked him if I could buy him some dinner at the Taco Bell across the street, and he looked at me like he must have heard me wrong. “Oh no,” he said, looking at the nickel and pennies I’d given him. “You have already given me so much.” And he meant that. I told him that God had provided me with resources so that I could help him — that I just wanted to show him the love of Christ. He said, “I didn’t know that existed anymore.”
And as I looked at this man, this brother of mine, and back at my car, I knew that the safe thing to do would be to leave him in this parking lot, get some food and bring it back to him. But I felt the leading of the Holy Spirit — crazy as that may sound — telling me that it would be ok to let this man in the car. When I told him I would give him a ride he protested strongly. He said, “Don’t let me in your car! I smell bad and I’m dirty, and you probably think I’ll carjack you.” But I told him that he was my guest, and when I told him he could sit in the front seat he was baffled. He smiled at me with his sparse set of teeth as if I was the first person to ever notice him, to ever treat him like a fellow human being.
When I told this story to a friend of mine, who I hoped would be touched by this man’s plight, I only got an earful about how unsafely I had acted … even though it was broad daylight in a busy area and the Taco Bell was directly across the street. She said he could have given me a disease or stolen my car or GPS. But honestly, if he tried to steal my GPS or my car, I probably would have just given them to him along with my wallet. He needs it all more than I do. After all, Luke 6:29 says that if a man takes your coat, you should give him your shirt also.
And I know that that wasn’t the “wisest” thing to do, and it’s not an action I plan on applying to every encounter I have with the homeless. But the Holy Spirit stirred my heart to help this man, and I did it. I felt that God wanted me to treat this man like a person by driving him in my car instead of treating him like some diseased creature I would leave on the curb and slow down long enough to toss food at. Christ touched and healed people with leprosy, and that wasn’t safe or sanitary. He ate with prostitutes; he had a tax collector — who was known for stealing — in his inner circle. He knew that those people needed Him, and no fear of disease or injury or stolen property would stand in his way. And I wanted to do that. I wanted to live out real Christianity, not the too-pristine imitation.
Because honestly, what are so-called Christians doing right now? We sit in our multi-million dollar churches with built-in coffee shops and talk about how sad it is that people are starving and dying; we may even set some bills in the offering plate for them as it passes around. But heaven forbid we set foot in the “bad parts of town” that need God’s people more than they need cash. Heaven forbid we sit and eat a meal with them, let them into our cars, invite them into our homes where we may be in danger. Because where in the Bible — that we so ardently claim to follow—does it call us to sacrifice our comfort or safety to bring the love of Christ to others? Oh yeah. Everywhere.
I once heard a well-known pastor named Charles Ware say that the church’s work should be Monday through Saturday, and that Sunday is merely coaching time. Too many Christians live like Sunday is their only work day—that going to church is all they have to do. Ware said that’s like going to a football game where all that happens is the coach training the team and telling them how to play the game but the players never actually play. A football player can’t call himself a football player if all he does is sit and listen to someone tell him how to play. And we Christians can’t call ourselves Christians if all we do is sit and listen to a pastor tell us how to live the Christian life. We have to get our hands dirty, put into practice what we are hearing. Otherwise, we’re just posers. And we can’t get upset when nonbelievers call us hypocrites and two-faced, because we are. If you’re not going to play football, don’t call yourself a football player. And if you’re not going to live a life like Christ, full of risks and self-sacrifice, don’t call yourself a Christian
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Grammys Showcase Adele & Whitney Houston
The 2012 Grammys had two leading ladies—rising star Adele and one star whose light had recently burnt out: Whitney Houston.
Adele made off with a clean sweep of all six Grammys she was nominated for, including Song of the Year and Record of the Year.
She performed the song that scored her the Song of the Year Grammy, “Rolling in the Deep,” during the show. Despite her recent throat surgery, her performance was flawless and the crowd gave her a standing ovation that lasted over two minutes (Watch it: http://bit.ly/adele2012).
While the night celebrated the success of Adele and other stars, it also mourned the loss of Whitney Houston, who died just one day before the Grammys.

Jennifer Hudson sang a heart-wrenching version of Houston’s “I Will Always Love You” in tribute to the singer (Watch it: http://bit.ly/houstontribute). Houston was also featured in a video of tributes during the ceremony.
While the Grammys celebrated the lives of these two women, one other woman had her chance at the stage but left a different impression on the audience. Nicki Minaj showed up in a “Little Red Riding Hood”-esque cape, escorted by a man dressed as a bishop. Her performance started with a mock exorcism that left the audience bewildered and, more than likely, just praying for more Adele. (Watch it: http://bit.ly/Aczbjq).

Monday, February 20, 2012
4 Tips on Giving the Perfect Gift
The giving of gifts is sometimes one of the most difficult gestures to perform and interpret. Finding gifts to give friends, family members, or worse — significant others — can be a nightmare. Here are my four tips on how to give the perfect gift:
1. Get a good feel for their personality, whether they appreciate funny presents or functional presents or sentimental presents and give accordingly.
2. Always be keenly listening to their wants and needs as you engage in conversations and daily life with them. If a man constantly complains about how worthless his coffee maker is, consider buying him a new one. If a woman points out how much she loves a certain kind of candy while shopping at the store, remember that for later.
3. Factor in what kind of occasion it is. Should a birthday present be different than a Valentine’s Day present … and does the recipient even care if it is?
4. Remember to put thought into it. A gift that is good in content can be terrible if the motivation behind it was thoughtless. Or a gift that would seem pathetic in content could be the most amazing present ever if the motivation and thought put into it was impressive. The best way to go is to get a gift that is great in content because of the amount of thought put into it.
I received a present today that fit all the requirements and more.
My boyfriend sent me the most gigantic box of chocolates I have ever seen in my entire life: 2lbs, 11oz, 105 pieces. And not just any chocolates. Godiva gourmet chocolates. Now that was a great gift in and of itself. But the thought behind it impressed me more. For one, he knows I love chocolate. He said he scoured the website so he could specifically pick out the kind of chocolate that would be in the box. And to top it all off, he chose a specific number of chocolates and timed it out so I could eat one every day until the day I graduate.
That, ladies and gentleman, is how it's done.
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
How to Maintain an LDR
On one hand, not having each other around 24/7 is helpful for the schedules we have to maintain. I can do my thing here and he can do his thing there without us having to shove date nights and plans into our already overflowing planners. We support each other and grow in our relationship through the phone, and it can be convenient with such hectic lifestyles.
But it’s definitely not easy, and Lord knows I would jump on the opportunity for us to be in the same place regardless of how my schedule would need to shift. So many times I wish he was beside me to experience life with me. Or I wish I could be with him to watch his leadership grow in the internship and support him at camp. We have to somehow bridge the gap with words that can never quite sum up exactly what it’s like to live without each other in two separate worlds.
But we make it work. By God’s grace, we make it work, because we love each other unconditionally. We understand that being physically together isn’t necessary for a healthy relationship—one that honors God and shows care and support for each other.
Here are the Top 5 Ways , according to my experience, to maintain a healthy LDR:
• Tell each other what you need: Some people only want a phone call at night, others need to text throughout the day, and some are ok with just a Skype date once a week. Tell each other how much communication you need to maintain the relationship and feel secure in it.
• Do things together: Pick a book you can both read at the same time so you can discuss it together. Set your alarm at the same time every morning and call each other before starting the day. Work through the same devotion book or chapters of the Bible together so you can challenge each other spiritually. Pick something that sparks thought and conversation.
• Pray for each other: This is key. Always ask how you can pray for each other and commit to doing it throughout the day. Then you aren’t thinking about how much you miss them but instead lifting them and their struggles up to God.
• Take advantage of the time apart: While it’s difficult to be apart, it has its benefits. You can spend more time with your friends and family, focus on your schoolwork or career, and most of all get to know each other without the physical aspect. Sometimes the physical stuff gets in the way of really connecting personality-wise, so spend some time on the phone playing 20 questions and really find out who the other person is.
• Stay positive: Complaining about the distance won’t make the miles disappear and won’t help your conversations or relationship growth. Focus on how blessed you are to have found one another and take this opportunity to be creative about you how get to know each other and spend your time together. It will strengthen your relationship and, since time flies when you’re having fun, you two will be back together in no time.
Sunday, January 29, 2012
Wonder Woman's Kryptonite
I've just found myself falling apart lately because of everything going on in my life. I completely forgot an entire 2-hour shift at the Writing Center. I have missed whole days of school already due to sickness because I run myself ragged and my immune system feels it. I have turned in half-completed assignments and made up answers on others just to get them done on time. I barely remember where I am supposed to be at what time and I’m not giving my all to the things I care about most. It's like I can't keep up with my own life.
So I recently decided to quit my job working at the student radio station, Resound. What I really wanted to do there was start up a radio news program that linked up with Cedars to get news on the air to students. But I was the only one in charge of this endeavour—I had no team to train. I had to find the people, train the people, get the news, record the news, edit the news and air it. And this was just ONE of my jobs. Yet I convinced myself that I could do it all by myself. I could make Resound better. But I couldn't. And frankly, it isn't my responsibility since I'm not even interested in broadcast journalism. I just wanted to open up positions for people who might be interested in broadcast news in the future. But I realized I have to let some other people have opportunities and focus on what I already have on my plate, especially in this last semester when I have a million worries on my mind.
I am trying to work on my time management skills now. Being that it's my last semester of college, it may be a bit late for that. But I'm hoping it will help me get my life back together and re-motivate me so that I can pour myself into the things I am passionate about and keep my life together.
I found this site from the Mayo Clinic that suggests some time management tips that I am hoping to study and incorporate into my life:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/time-management/wl00048
Saturday, January 21, 2012
Panic Strikes
As I near the end of my college career, I have realized two things: (1.) I may not get a job right out of college. (2.) If I do find a job, it might not be in the field I’ve been studying in for the past four years. And now I am scared to death.
I have been applying to scores of jobs on careerbuilder.com—everything possible in the media realm, from newspaper writing to editing to radio gigs; but I have only heard back from one. And that response was a rejection e-mail.
I have been pouring my entire life into journalism since I chose the major. I’ve been involved in Cedars student newspaper, Resound radio, the Xenia Gazette, social media…anything I could get my hands on that dealt with my studies. In my mind, it’s all I am really good at. But maybe I’m really not good at all, at least not by “real world” standards. In all honesty, the journalism program at Cedarville is very new, has few students and only two or three professors, so how can I be assured I am getting the best education in journalism? Maybe I will get out in the real world and the idea that I can write will turn out to be just a sham in comparison to what’s out there. Or maybe there are just no journalism jobs available.
According to The Daily Beast, journalism is number 1 among the 20 most useless college degrees: http://www.thedailybeast.com/galleries/2011/04/27/20-most-useless-degrees.html
So I started applying for other jobs as well—jobs I figured I could at least manage through. I applied for administrative assistant positions, receptionist jobs, tutoring jobs…nothing that I really want to do or have been trained to do, but it may be my only option to keep myself afloat.
There’s always the possibility that I will find no employment at all. Even McDonald’s didn’t take me two summers ago. So here the panic strikes. Here I realize that the plan I made for my life might include newspapers only in that I will burn them to keep warm in the box that I live in.
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Arch Nemesis: Senioritis
I blame it on my new arch nemesis: senioritis. It’s that whisper in my ear that says, “go back to sleep” every time my alarm sounds. It’s the thought that passes my mind every time I open a book, that my GPA can’t really drop that much in one semester. Facebook could be much more entertaining. How much could skipping one assignment hurt?
I have already made some slip-ups. I used one of my eight chapel skips on the third day of school. Not because I was sick or because I had to do homework. I just wanted to sleep in. I also didn't even bother to bring any binders or books to my first few days of classes; so all my syllabi are folded in half and crumpled into one or another of my purses and buried in the giant heap of books, papers and clothes in my room. I've been too lazy to clean that too. Part of me wants to crawl under it and sleep until graduation. Either way, I'd be buried in textbooks.
But when I want to skip class or slack off on assignments, I try to picture—even though I hate exercise—running a race. I’ve worked so hard these past three and a half years, just like running hard for the majority of a race. But if I stop my hard work, it’s like if a runner slows down and gets distracted by the butterflies on the side of the track; he isn’t going to finish well. I want to finish well…to spend my last few months here giving it my all.
I found an article on Yahoo! about ways to fight senioritis. According to the article, these are the Top 5 Ways to Battle Senioritis:
1. Take care of yourself.
2. Stay organized.
3. Get motivated.
4. Be realistic.
5. Visit the career center.
To read the article in detail: http://news.yahoo.com/5-tips-battle-college-senioritis-181445141.html
Together, we can find a cure.